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There is nothing like “the” perfect relationship. Relationship requires work and if the people within the relationship are not willing to work, the relationship (without a doubt) will fail. Any successful person worked hard to get to that level or is still working hard enough to maintain that level of stature. To maintain a healthy and good relationship, you will need to work hard to get there and work harder to maintain it.
Nothing good, special, or unique comes easily.
What gets on my nerves the most is how this generation does not value, cherish and appreciate good relationships. It seems as though we get in relationships without respect and without good intentions to make it work.
These 5 pointers will help get you ready and prepared for the unique, special and good relationship we all seek. They must be adhered to before getting in any relationship.
1. Know Exactly What You Are Signing Up For
This is very important and covers a lot of areas. You have to know the kind of person you are dealing with, you have to know what they like and what they do not like, you have to know how they react in certain situations, you have to get to know them without force, but with good reasoning and intentions. The reason why I believe this is important because “sudden changes” or “unexpected changes ” might destroy the relationship.
I feel as though, some people do not take the time to know what they are signing up for. All what you usually hear is “wow, I did not know this and and that.. I did not know Sarah or Mark can do this or can do that”.. If you did your homework, you wouldn’t have to kill yourself over the test.
We have become a lazy generation. We sign up for stuff without knowing exactly what we signed up for. Yes, some people can hide their true and good character, but you can’t hide something forever because there is nothing new under the sun. If you know you are going to date a guy who cheats and is disrespectful, best believe he will disrespect you and your family and you will be cheated on; and when it happens, do not act surprised because you knew exactly what you were signing up for. If you know you are dating a girl who is verbally or physically abusive, do not think they will change. Yes, they might hide it a couple of times, but best believe they will surely insult and beat you up one day.
2. Close Any Opened Doors
The worst thing that can happen to you is having a good time and moving on with your life, then all of a sudden, your past begins to haunt you and threatens what you currently have. Sometimes we are not destroyed by our actions today, but our actions from the past. Closing all doors shut, and settling issues in your past will enable you to have a clear understanding and conscience about your future. You can fully and totally devote yourself to your significant other which will enable both of you to grow together in peace and true happiness.
3. (You) Respect Yourself, Get To Know Yourself & Appreciate Yourself
This will be all about YOU! You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of another male/female.
Respect to me, is one of the most important keys in order to have a good and healthy relationship. You need to respect yourself first before you can respect the other person. Do not get in a relationship if you do not respect yourself; you will cause harm to yourself and the other person. If you respect yourself, you will not insult, abuse or cheat on yourself, so you will not insult, abuse or cheat on anyone else.
Get to know yourself more than anyone else. Know what makes you happy and know what makes you angry. Knowing yourself will make things easier on the other person as they get to know more about you. It makes the relationship easier and it makes it a respectful one.
Appreciate yourself. Learn to appreciate yourself, or else you will be waiting for others to appreciate you. The moment you don’t get others to appreciate you, you get frustrated with people and with life.
4. Grow Up
Maturity is key to every relationship. As a woman, you can’t be with an immature man, and as a man, you can’t be with an immature woman. There will be UNNECESSARY conflicts and misunderstandings which will eventually destroy something which has potential. Before you expect a unique relationship, you have to grow up and understand the concepts of relationships. Growing up comes with learning how to appreciate, compromise and sacrifice. Because the relationship is between the two of you, so it will not be all about you and what you want and when you want it. Growing up will allow you to understand the other person’s point of view and will force you to become a better man for your woman or a better woman for your man. Yes, there will be conflicts and misunderstanding at times, but a matured couple will solve every issue and will enjoying solving it. Now that is a HEALTHY, UNIQUE, and GOOD RELATIONSHIP.
5. Know Your Worth and Value Yourself
Know what you are worth, If you worth a good/great guy, DO NOT SETTLE for a bad one (it will destroy you and leave you regretting for a long time). If you deserve a virtuous woman, DO NOT settle for less (you will be hurt more than you think).
Knowing your worth and value will help you attract a woman/man with worth and value. If you deserve a good man or woman, do not settle for an idiot or someone who will treat you like trash, whiles you are like a diamond cut or knowing dang well that you should be treated like a prince/princess or something of great value.
Do not be with anyone who does not want to be with you. The moment you value yourself and know your worth, you will want to be with someone who will want to like you like no other and who will want to respect you, appreciate you, and like to be around you. Know what you are worth, If you worth a good guy, DO NOT SETTLE for a bad one (it will destroy you and leave you regretting for a long time). If you deserve a virtuous woman, DO NOT settle for less (you will be hurt more than you think). Once you find the great/good/wonderful significant other, DO NOT LET HIM/HER GOunless they want to leave for some strange reason; work and work hard to maintain that good and respectable relationship with that great person. It is not going to be easy, but it is going to be worth it. It will always make you happy even in the time of storms, it will keep you at peace and you will always want more of them, and less of any hoodrat or hooligan. You deserve to be with someone who will see your worth, value your goals, appreciate your goals,