If you ask anyone the most important things in a relationship, you will usually hear, trust, communication, connection, affection and etc. Those are all great answers without a doubt. Not to downplay the other attributes, but I strongly believe that good communication is the most important aspect of a relationship. With that being said, there is one particular attribute which in my opinion might trump communication. This attribute is RESPECT.
We are living in a society where by couples in relationships have no respect for each other. It is pathetic. We are living in a society about whereby about 75% of relationships end in break up due to lack of respect. If you respect your significant other, you will trust them unless they give you a reason not to. If you respect your boy friend or girlfriend, you will ensure god communication to keep things going. If you respect you significant other, you will simply remain faithful and truthful.
It sucks sometimes hearing young couples argue. Foul words are thrown around for no reason. If you are not going to give your significant other the respect they deserve, you might as well step for someone to get the job done. If there is one thing I hate, it is couples who argue like they are enemies and will never see each other again. Why would you tell a girl you love her, and simply look at her and verbally or physically abuse her? Why would you tell your boyfriend that he is the one for you, then turn around and abuse him verbally or physically? This does not make sense to me. Yes, we all get angry and we all get upset, but we have to learn how to control our anger. Yes, they are words and you might not mean it, but once said, you can’t take them back. The same way lyrics in a song (words), can inspire and manipulate, that is the same way insults hailed at your significant other can hurt and destroy them emotionally.
I follow certain principles in relationships. I simply can’t give something whichI don’t have: if I don’t like myself, I feel as though I will not be able to like a whole different human being. So when I tell a girl I like her, I really do and I back it up with my actions. My word has to be my bond when I am involved with someone emotionally. Since I like myself so much, I simply can’t look at my self in the mirror and verbally abuse myself. If I can’t abuse myself, why should I feel the need to abuse someone else who I claim I like?
If you are in a relationship and you feel it is okay to abuse your partner or it is okay for your partner to abuse you, then I am afraid you should be single and get the opportunity to like yourself a whole lot more before you share yourself with another person.
Relationships will have its ups and downs, but we should make it a point to respect the people we are with. We should make sure we cherish and appreciate them, because out of everyone in the world, they chose to be with you. It was a decision they made. Respect will make your relationship more enjoyable.