Day: February 19, 2011

Is She Really Beautiful?

It’s about 6 something in the morning and I can hear the dang annoying birds singing
It was so annoying that I decided not to sleep, but stay up and listen to music, and review some of my old writings
What was ugly at first (the sound of the birds) all of a sudden turned out to be beautiful to me
Why was it beautiful? Because those birds didn’t give a dang whether I thought their chirping or singing was beautiful, annoying, ugly and what not.
I realized the beauty in what they are doing after I took the time to observe the tune of their chirping and singing
Now that is BEAUTIFUL!

Sometimes as humans we miss the beauty in a person
First impressions are great, but beauty is more than appearance
My male friends and I sometimes talk about the girls they are interested in
They tell me what most guys will say about a girl “she is beautiful, she is this bad, and that and that..oh and she is fine”
I wait and wait and wait. Waiting for them to say something about the girl’s smile, traits, personality and attitude
They miss the whole point on what beauty is. Then I have to sit them down, and try to give them my little input on beauty
Now that is BEAUTIFUL!

With technology improving, we can definitely put a price on beauty based on appearance – Nicki Minaj is obviously better looking than she was 5-7 years ago. All because of money
Anything which has monetary value has no value at all – Because it will perish over the course of time
But what God has embedded in a human being will not perish. It might alter due to circumstances, but will not perish
If my fellow guys only pay attention to outside beauty alone, then these friends of mine will never be able to stick to one woman
Because believe it or not, there is always going to be a more beautiful woman
There is never going to be the most beautiful woman in the world (of-course besides my mom and my future wife), so following the outward appearance will lead you to follow many and unnecessary women
There is always going to be someone more physically beautiful out there
But there will always be ONE and ONLY ONE NATURAL BEAUTIFUL personality, behavior, ethics, and lady
Because what is within a woman cannot be reproduced or manufactured by any man besides God
So following inner beauty of an individual will lead you to follow the will and plan of God
Now that is BEAUTIFUL!

Beauty in my opinion is just not a 3 second glance at a woman
It is the continual gorgeous personality of a wonderful individual
I usually ask my friends questions which they really hate
“Would you still want to be with this girl if she gained 80 pounds”?
“Would you still be with girl if you see her without her make up and her messed up hair”?
“Would you still be with this girl after she is done having kids, and she looks kind of old”? etc.
The outside beauty of a person doesn’t get better over time
It get’s worse
The inner beauty of a person, believe it or not, with the girl being in line and right standing with God will get better and better over time
That is something you can cherish and hold onto
Now that is BEAUTIFUL!

Now guys, pay attention like the way I payed attention to the birds and realized how beautiful their singing/chirping was
At first, some of the personalities of these girls might be very annoying and depressing 😦
But once you take the time and patience to try to accept and work with it, it will become the most beautiful thing you have ever experienced
*Do not try to understand women! Never do that. Because You can never understand them but only reason with them* – They are complicated for their own good, and thats the beauty about women to me. I tell my mom this all the time, and I am yet to hear her deny it. 🙂
I believe and know that God allowed humans to have weakness which will be seen as strengths to the people who cherish us the most
You are not obliged to like the natural weakness of a woman (be truthful); but you are obliged to accept it if you are willing to call her beautiful
Beauty does not come in parts. It comes in a total package, it comes in one piece, it comes complete and it comes with God
Now that is BEAUTIFUL!

If You Can’t Respect Them, Do Not Be With Them!

If you ask anyone the most important things in a relationship, you will usually hear, trust, communication, connection, affection and etc. Those are all great answers without a doubt. Not to downplay the other attributes, but I strongly believe that good communication is the most important aspect of a relationship. With that being said, there is one particular attribute which in my opinion might trump communication. This attribute is RESPECT.

We are living in a society where by couples in relationships have no respect for each other. It is pathetic. We are living in a society about whereby about 75% of relationships end in break up due to lack of respect. If you respect your significant other, you will trust them unless they give you a reason not to. If you respect your boy friend or girlfriend, you will ensure god communication to keep things going. If you respect you significant other, you will simply remain faithful and truthful.

It sucks sometimes hearing young couples argue. Foul words are thrown around for no reason. If you are not going to give your significant other the respect they deserve, you might as well step for someone to get the job done. If there is one thing I hate, it is couples who argue like they are enemies and will never see each other again. Why would you tell a girl you love her, and simply look at her and verbally or physically abuse her? Why would you tell your boyfriend that he is the one for you, then turn around and abuse him verbally or physically? This does not make sense to me. Yes, we all get angry and we all get upset, but we have to learn how to control our anger. Yes, they are words and you might not mean it, but once said, you can’t take them back. The same way lyrics in a song (words), can inspire and manipulate, that is the same way insults hailed at your significant other can hurt and destroy them emotionally.

I follow certain principles in relationships. I simply can’t give something whichI don’t have: if I don’t like myself, I feel as though I will not be able to like a whole different human being. So when I tell a girl I like her, I really do and I back it up with my actions. My word has to be my bond when I am involved with someone emotionally. Since I like myself so much, I simply can’t look at my self in the mirror and verbally abuse myself. If I can’t abuse myself, why should I feel the need to abuse someone else who I claim I like?

If you are in a relationship and you feel it is okay to abuse your partner or it is okay for your partner to abuse you, then I am afraid you should be single and get the opportunity to like yourself a whole lot more before you share yourself with another person.

Relationships will have its ups and downs, but we should make it a point to respect the people we are with. We should make sure we cherish and appreciate them, because out of everyone in the world, they chose to be with you. It was a decision they made. Respect will make your relationship more enjoyable.